I am discovering a place where cleaning house is becoming less of a frustration. Cleaning is not my favorite activity to put it mildly, and I have discovered only lately that if I do it by small bits it is less painful. I also do it with loud dancing music on.
The inspiration came from Anne Carol Rowland’s blog. The Zensight woman, had a post about it couple of months ago; she came to the conclusion that she resented cleaning so much because there was some kind of abuse going on from her mum while she was a kid. I very much relate to that.
My mother was very fussy about everything being clean and in its place. I don’t like dirty, but I don’t like cleaning either; so my budget permitting I have a cleaning lady coming in.
Unfortunately I couldn’t find the link to Anne’s blog anymore but I had it in the email a friend forwarded; it is well worth reading as she brings a Zensight protocol on the subject as well. So here it is…
How to Finally Enjoy Housework
Laundry, vacuuming, taking out the garbage, dusting, tidying, cooking, grocery shopping, washing, and repairing….the list of household chores is never-ending. Most of us - if not all of us - have negative associations with doing housework.
And, certainly, it makes sense that given the choice between cleaning and going for a nice walk outside, reading a book, or surfing the internet, most of us find more enjoyment and stimulation in doing anything but housework.
I myself have, my entire adult life, struggled with housework. I am not, by nature, an organized person. Laundry always got done out of necessity - sometimes dire necessity - while most other tasks tended to pile up.
I tried many different ways of approaching this dilemma. Sometimes I would devote an entire day (or, more likely days) to cleaning my house, determined that once it was clean, I would keep it clean. Surely that could not be so hard, right? Wrong. In spite of my best intentions, I would find that mess inevitably would pile up again, often sooner rather than later.
(…)I tried a 15 minute per day cleaning regimen, where I would set a timer for 15 minutes and clean just until the timer went off. This is a system advocated by “Flylady” (for more information, see my blog). Flylady tells us “you can do anything for 15 minutes!”
This system was truly a lifesaver for me at first - I accomplished so much more than I did before! It was easier to face cleaning for just 15 minutes at a time. However, after the first couple of weeks, even though I wrote 15 minute cleaning intervals into my schedule religiously, I still found I could not get myself started.
Finally, I realized something bigger was at play with this issue. I believe this is true for many of us who struggle with keeping up with household tasks.
I grew up in a fastidiously clean home. This has, as an adult, been a source of confusion for me. After all, if I grew up in a clean home, shouldn’t I have learned good habits while in it?
Looking back, I realized I had a great deal of unresolved trauma in relation to cleaning and housework. How many of us grew up getting yelled at to go clean our rooms?
In my situation, there was a constant feeling of pressure and often intense fear or terror, in relation to keeping things clean. Indeed as I got older, it was my job to do all or most of the cooking and cleaning. While I was paid a small amount for this, the amount of work was enormous for an older child and young teen, and there was an atmosphere of rage and abuse should the work done not be completed according to my mother’s stringent standards.
In making this connection, finally the realization has sunk in that processing this trauma may make all the difference for me in my current day to day life and home cleanliness.
So how does one resolve this issue so that the day to day upkeep of one’s home is not quite so overwhelming?
(…)You can then take a moment to think back to some of the most upsetting experiences you experienced when growing up, in relation to housework or similar tasks. Apply the Zensight trauma healing protocol (as outlined in Discover Zensight: Easy Energy Healing & Personal Transformation, and/or in the Healing Trauma with Zensight audio healing session).
I have also included some of the healing statements I used myself:
I heal all of the decisions that any parts of me made while growing up, about cooking, cleaning, and other housework, that don’t serve my highest good now.
I now heal, transform and release any and all internalized messages, core beliefs, and psychological programming about cooking, cleaning and housework that don’t serve my highest good now.
I heal the original decisions that any parts of me made when growing up, that I hate housework or that housework is something that I have to be forced to do.
I heal any beliefs that any parts of me have, that I have no control when it comes to creating or maintaining a clean and organized home.
I now heal, transform and release any and all emotion that any parts of me are holding onto in connection with doing housework, that doesn’t serve my highest good now.
I now heal, transform and release any and all identities that any parts of me have taken on, as being someone who hates housework.
I let all the different parts of me know, deeply and completely, that whether I do - or don’t do - housework is now entirely up to me.
I now create and install new ways of finding joy and freedom in getting done all of the household tasks that I need or want to do.
Add in any additional healing statements that you feel you would most benefit from, and most apply to your own individual situation. I find that work with parts of self has been especially beneficial for me in resolving this issue (for more information please see Discover Zensight: Easy Energy Healing & Personal Transformation).
Lately, I have been waking up in the morning and cleaning and actually feeling happy doing so. The satisfaction, for the first time in my life, is coming not just from the results but even from the process.
I would never have believed that this could be possible. I also know that, if I can do this, anyone can.
I am working my way through my house a bit at a time, targeting each room - and even a portion of each room - each day and within a week the transformation is quite dramatic. Not only are the basics done but all of the “extras” that I would only rarely get to before - clearing off cobwebs, washing down baseboards, clearing out unwanted clutter, washing walls, etc… - are also getting done, a bit at a time, and with a feeling of joy and freedom in my heart because for the first time I can actually do these things without it feeling like drudgery.
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